If you are reading this, chances are you have dealt with a narcissist at one point in your life. You understand how quickly your reality changes and how isolating it can be. You cannot seem to do anything right, and you are no longer the main character in your life. We lose our identity until we are stripped down to a nub, leaving nothing but a shell of who we once were. It takes a lot of work to heal from these relationships and therapy is expensive. Here are some tips to piss off even the most narcissist-y of narcissists. Or at least get them out of your hair.
Celebrations
Narcissists hate anything to do with celebrations. Why? Because it is not about them. Celebrations involve celebrating for the sake of the event- This means birthdays, Christmas, and parties. Yes, even Susie’s 8th birthday party- she is no exception! Celebrations reek of intimacy. Narcissists cannot handle intimacy; it’s too much for them. Intimacy is an exchange of energy, a give, and a take. Narcissists only know how to take, so this is a no for them. Narcissists will go as far as to make a scene just to get attention. They do not care what kind of attention they get; they care about the focus being on them.
Being Ignored
While this is a narcissist’s favorite control tactic, they hate it when done to them. Anyone in a relationship with a narcissist is familiar with the “silent treatment.” They use the silent treatment as a manipulation tactic. But if you do it to them? Oh, forget about it. They are pissed. Narcissists thrive when they have control of you. If you brush them off, they no longer hold that power. You do. Not only does it make your boundaries known, but it shows that you are detaching yourself.
Your Authenticity
Dr. Ramani Clinical Psychologist & Author discusses the power of owning your authenticity and how to use it to ward off narcissists. It’s easier to slip away from them when you own who you are. Staying true to yourself makes it harder for them. This shift compromises their control. Control is a narcissist’s bread and butter. If they cannot control you, they can’t eat! Narcissists need that constant attention, so when you are focusing on yourself and your authenticity, this is triggering for them.
Abandonment
Narcissists need to feel close to you. Seeing as how control is the thing that feeds them most, abandonment is a big fear for them. We could go on and on about this one. Narcissists do not want to see you move on without them. They want to keep you wrapped in their sticky web. Abandoning them means they will no longer have access to you.
It’s easy to slip away from yourself when you are in a relationship with a narcissist. Remind yourself that you deserve a peace of mind. Your mind paints the reality surrounding you. Your mind is your home. It’s time to set yourself free and start living the life you deserve. The life that was meant for you all along. Never forget how valuable you are. I hope reading this made you smile.